I’m a mom, and when I think about what I want, I’d love a day of pampering. Or someone cooking me food, doing the laundry, all that not so fun but has to be done stuff. However, I’m single, and my 11-year-old son, well, if dinner is left to him, it’ll be whatever is in the freezer that can be put in the oven. And laundry, he can sort and fold but with my supervision. Let’s just say what most moms truly want, they probably don’t really get.

For me, that’s ok. I’ll be happy to spend the day with my son doing something fun.

But when I dream of what I really want, well, I think of that day of pampering I will have to gift myself!

Recently on Facebook I saw in a group where someone asked what moms want most for Mother’s Day. Here were a few of the answers:

• Many said a day off!
• Sleep.
• No obligations for the day
• Food and to watch TV in peace
• A LOOOOOONG nap
• No fighting between kids
• A weekend away BY MYSELF
• For the word “mom” to be replaced by the word “dad”
• Time alone
• Wine and peace
• Massage and shopping alone
• A day alone
• A break
• Appreciate
• Peace and quiet
• A clean house I didn’t clean myself

The list goes on and on. There were almost 300 comments! It’s clear moms KNOW what they want.

On that list there were a few specific gifts mentioned. And some listed fun, enjoyable activities they wanted to do with their kids or family.

But what stood out the most was the list I made. Most moms wanted to be ALONE.

As I thought about this, it made me a bit sad. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love my alone time! But on the day you celebrate being a mom, most didn’t want time with the kid or kids that made them a mom.

This got me thinking how oftentimes as moms, and sometimes women in general, we tend to always put others’ needs before ours. So the fact we are worn out, tired, need a break, sleep, or to feel appreciated is because we aren’t really taking care of our needs.

Now before you get upset, who am I kidding, you can get upset. I used to be that mom, married with three kids trying to do it all.

I eventually got burned out, gained 30+ lbs and pretty much hated my life (even though I didn’t fully realize it at the time). Then over time, a long time, I learned how to care for myself again. In fact, putting ME first.

So when I think about what I want most for Mother’s Day, it’s for you moms that want the me time, massage, sleep, time alone, do that. Plan a day for yourself where you get just what you want!

Going through life exhausted, unhappy, and always putting yourself last is no way to live.

I am challenging you to make the decision this Mother’s Day to start putting your needs as a priority.

Actions to take:

• Plan one thing to do for yourself that you “wish” you could have for Mother’s Day
• Then every day start doing one thing that makes you happy, even if it’s 5 minutes of quiet, a cup of hot tea, or 15 min reading.

If you can find a few minutes a day for yourself, then you’ll likely never find what you want most.

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